Sep 30, 2007, 11:29 AM
Post #9 of 74
Here's a note on dating people from your own program.
Re: [pongo] MFA & Relationships
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I had the experience of meeting a guy when I was doing my MA, dating for a year and a half, and even getting engaged. Then, it didn't work out, which was a total nightmare. Granted, we had a pretty tumultuous relationship anyway, but...
If you date someone from your program, you have the added pressure of seeing the person multiple days a week in class, and likely sharing the same group of friends. Then, I think it is difficult to avoid situations of competition, especially if one or both of you have inflated egos, which--let's face it--is common among grad students of any discipline. Finally, you have to face the fact that, if you have a fight or "problems" of any kind, then everyone else in your department is going to know about it, and people inevitably form opinions and often take sides.
Still, it's pretty rewarding to be in a relationship with someone who shares your interests and passion for writing and intellectual development. But it might be better to pick up somebody from a different department, I don't know.
And then, if you end up with someone from the "Suit world" that has no interest in writing and literature, that individual might have difficulty fitting in with your MFA friends. That could especially be a problem if this person moves with you to the place where you are studying, and doesn't have any friends of his or her own in that location. He or she might also come to resent the fact that you don't have to appear at work at 9am and sit in a cubicle until 5:00, and that you seem to have more fun than most Suits do.