Mar 15, 2006, 4:44 PM
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yes, the money is nice. i came out of undergrad with hardly any debt. i'm buried in it now from having to find a way to live in SF. mostly subsidized loans, at least.
Re: [staple] Has Anybody Made a Final Decision?
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so, i knew i would not go anywhere that did not give me aid. period.
did you get that fellowship where you don't have to teach? i'm looking forward to teaching. i don't like the way undergraduate composition is almost always a haze and i'm hoping i can find a way to not patronize students and teach them why it matters... we'll see.
not that you probably wouldn't have gotten it anyway (that early call says everything you need to know about how much they wanted you there-it was a quick and easy decision), but way to hold out. a friend of mine wanted me to play coy with them... but i just couldn't.
the discussion some are having about whether they'll treat you different because of being waitlisted worries me a tiny bit and i think is serving as an entirely unhelpful diversion. i guess i've always assumed that once they had it down to a dozen or so names that they had to start considering other factors. i had an "uneven" undergraduate experience and, frankly, a hard life until about three years ago—severe depression, insane family, marriage, childbirth, bad-bad-bad nightmarish marriage and divorce, coming out, custody issues… sigh, i find it all so boring to talk about now, but yeah, i guess it almost derailed me. i resisted the urge to share much more than a sentence about it in my SOP. i don’t know if that was good or bad, i’ve just notice that in the last few years it really got old to talk about it and so, well, i make it brief or don’t mention it at all... and if i were on an admissions committee, it wouldn't make me say no to someone, but it would plant a seed of doubt and make me more inclined to accept the people without baggage (academic or otherwise)... or not. now that i have said it sounds insane and not at all like something i'd do. maybe. i dunno. i console myself with the "first on the waitlist" part--which is also the thing that makes me think that they really, really probably liked it... but that the relative "roughness" and my undergraduate (not my graduate--that's shiny and pretty) background might have made them go, well, we like these people just as much and look, everything they sent was polished and there's little or no history of issues at school, blah, blah, blah. maybe. or not. maybe i'm just kidding myself.
i hate the racist apology song "Sweet Home Alabama."
i've heard it more times in the last two weeks than in the whole of the last ten years... malls, grocery stores, at a bar, someone else's car, that annoying movie that was on the night before i got the call...