Mar 7, 2008, 10:32 AM
Post #746 of 1632
Re: [Glyph] Feeling like the world's biggest loser
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I would just like to say that I've felt the same way for about the last week. I havent really been sleeping well, I'm glued to these blogs, I daydream about getting accepted somewhere fantastic only to feel worse about it since it hasn't happened and probably wont. I feel foolish, embarrassed, and jealous. It's not fun.
In your case, remember you've only heard from three schools. You have nine more to hear from, and even if you didn't get into any of those (and I think you will get in somewhere), maybe you'd be waitlisted. At least, that's what I'm telling myself. It's easy to get discouraged, really easy. But last night I was thinking about it. And maybe getting rejected isn't that bad.
1) It's March. The process doesn't begin again until September. Take six months to really focus on writing. Workshop the hell out of your work. Attend literary events. Make connections with other writers. Write everyday. And research the writing of the faculty where you most want to attend. Try to see which place matches your style. I didn't do this -- but it makes total sense and I will do it next time.
2) Many, many people apply more than once. Dont feel bad about it. Really. It is a crapshoot, as everyone says, and it isn't worth going someplace you're not excited about. Apply again and really do the research beforehand. Look for the money. It's not worth going into debt over.
3) Rejection isn't the worst thing in the world. Writers especially have to get used to it. Take it and have it inspire you to work harder.
4) The most inspiring people in the world are the ones who have fallen, many times, and scraped themselves up again.
5) Send your work to journals.
6) Ask successful applicants (maybe connect with some on here): what approach did they take in their personal statement, what did they send for their writing sample, did they connect with the faculty beforehand, is it their first time applying, what are their grades/gpa. I know that grades/gpa are not supposed to matter, but maybe they do. Perhaps find out what schools it matters to more and tailor things that way a little too.
7) Ask yourself if you really want it, and if you do, dont give up! It will happen for you!
I hope this list helps. It's a little corny but I am trying to stay positive and focus on what's really important. Best of luck to you!
I need to vent.
I applied to 12 schools. So far, I've received flat-out rejections from Cornell, Iowa, and Texas State. I'm assuming rejections from Michener, Indiana, and Notre Dame. I'm still waiting to hear from Alabama, NC State, UNCG, UVA, Arkansas, and Ole Miss, though some of these have already notified acceptees. Things are looking grim and my ego is seriously bruised. I keep wondering what possessed me to drop $1K on application fees and postage just so I could get universally rejected.
When I started this process, I had very little doubt in my mind that I would get in somewhere... But now I'm 99.9% sure that I won't be getting in anywhere. I feel like such a fool. I regret telling anyone that I was applying to MFA programs. I especially regret telling my boss that I would be leaving, when it's obvious now that I won't be going anywhere.
A couple of months ago, I thought I would be planning my move away from my job and my crappy condo in South Florida. Now it looks like I'm stuck here for at least another year, as I really can't justify leaving now.
This process has been a terrible experience, emotionally and psychologically. I just wish it were over already.
Thanks for letting me vent. Sorry to be so negative.