Oct 17, 2009, 6:45 PM
Post #63 of 74
I'm reviving this thread for the sake of those experiencing this dilemma during the Fall 2010 app. season.
Re: MFA & Relationships
I've been in a long term relationship with my boyfriend going on two years now. I'm graduating in December, giving me a semester off between undergrad and a prospective MFA program. I'm technically graduating "late" because I was a transfer student, so I'll be almost 23 when starting a potential program. Anyway, my dilemma is both related to age and the relationship. Of course, doing this is essentially a lifelong dream. But I worry both about maybe being too young to get the most out of it and about the effect it may have on my relationship. My boyfriend is still working on his BA in Bioengineering and wouldn't be able to move. I'm only applying to 3 or 4 schools, none of which are in the area because California is very limited in terms of strong, decently funded programs. I'm even more limited by applying in nonfiction. So anywhere I got in, we'd have to do at least an hour or two flight long distance. I'm applying to University of Arizona, University of Iowa (NWP), and University of New Mexico for sure.
My boyfriend is a very laid-back person and isn't really a writer (though, as a musician, has dreams of writing the ultimate book on guitarists and music history). He's supportive of me and my dream of being a writer, but he's also made it clear that he'd obviously prefer for me not to move away. He said he'd be willing to do long distance. I have a lot of concerns around that, of course, and wouldn't want a LDR to detract from this opportunity or the opportunity to potentially ruin a good relationship (although, as others have said here, that may mean it wasn't meant to be if it can't survive a couple years of distance). It looks like I will apply to schools this year and then just see where I get in. In theory, I could easily put off even applying for a year, which originally was my intention. But I sort of want to get the process started now and get a feel for how it works. That way, if I don't get into one of the few programs I've applied to (which seems likely, but nonfiction isn't quite as competitive, so it is possible), I'll have a better shot the next time around.
Anyway, just throwing my situation out there. Is anyone else in a long term relationship applying this year or anyone attending an MFA program that's in one now? How are those of you that posted here earlier this year faring?